Our hearts are heavy for the San Antonio Spurs but man, are we proud.
The Spurs franchise is a good reflection of the San Antonio people – we keep it simple, we are humble and we are passionate. I am so proud that they are the team that represents San Antonio.
Coach Pop has built something great here and as long as him and Tim Duncan are here, I think we still have one more championship we can bring home. Pop is known for his cut and dry interviews but this last interview was solid. He quotes,
“Even in defeat, you have to enjoy your accomplishments,”
and when asked what he told his team after the game, he said,
“I just told them I love them.”
It’s a family. It’s basketball. It’s simple. Thanks Pop for another great year.
It’s the eve before I return back to work from being on maternity leave for 10 weeks. I’m getting everything ready for the nanny the next day. Got both kids a set of clothes, potty seat for my 2 year old, burp cloths for the baby, diapers for both kids, extra towel and baby soap just in case there’s an accident, making sure there is food for breakfast and lunch. As I am doing this, I am thinking random thoughts like:
What am I going to wear? Oh I don’t fit into that quite yet.
Do I have time to do my hair? Maybe I should shower tonight instead of the morning. But I have to nurse the baby in the morning, will I have enough time?
Don’t forget your pump and the freezer pack. Oh that reminds me, I will have to put pumping on my calendar so I don’t get booked all day.
All these thoughts going through my head as my husband looks at me like I am a worried child preparing for my first day of school.
Of course this is the eve. Once morning comes, nothing goes as planned. I get back to the office and surprisingly jump back into things as if I had never left. Then half way through my afternoon, my nanny calls and says my 2 year old as a 103.6 fever. I had to cut my first day back short and take him to the doctor.
The life of a working mom. No sympathy please. It’s what I signed up for. I love it. But it is my life.
I don’t know if it’s me being a working mom but I am noticing a lot of buzz about the working mom in the news lately. (Kind of like when you want a specific car and all of sudden you see them all over the road). From Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Succeed” to Gabby Reece’s,’”My Foot is Too Big for the Gass Slipper,” there is a lot of discussion on how women are making things happen. Sheryl Sandberg quotes, “take a seat at the table,” advocating for women to be more bold in the business world and that in order to do it they need a life partner that can do 50% of the work at home and fully support their career. (here’s a good review). Then there is Reece who took 10 years off from her career to raise her children and she quotes, “to truly be feminine means being soft, receptive, and –- look out, here it comes –- submissive.”
Two entirely different perspectives. Which is one right?
And then of course, I love Gwen Stefani’s honest feedback on what it’s like being a working mom, where she quotes,
“I fail at something everyday,”
from the September 2012 Marie Claire issue.
These are all perspectives from very high profile individuals but at some level, the pain points are all very similar to any working mom- and there is so much debate on how to balance work and life.
I enjoy going to the office and working but I also enjoy coming home and cooking a meal for the family. I do the laundry too. And it’s ok. I am fortunate to have an incredibly supportive husband that helps at home. But what about the 10 million single working moms? Or what about the women that have a partner that does stay home. Or what about the women without children but are the caretaker for their parents? Let’s face it, women try to do it all, whether they have kids or not and we are all just trying to figure it out.
At the end of the day, we are women with similar goals and aspirations but each with a unique way of getting there. There is no right way to live your life, there is only one way for you.
Rather than being so judgmental, we should be supporting each others decisions. And we should be surrounding ourselves around those that respect our own decisions. Because if we do this, we have more time to collaborate and think about building a better future together.
I recently watched an NBC News special on the Stiletto Network by Pamela Ryckman where she highlights this new trend of female support groups forming and I thought, “yes!, that’s what we should be doing – supporting each other!”
Let’s talk more about what we need, want and spur ideas together.
I love my career and I love being a mom. Aside from that, I am just a driven female in a challenging world and the last thing I need is someone to judge me or to suggest how I should balance my life. What I do want, however, is to hear from women that are doing great things in the world so I can continue to be inspired and motivated to keep moving forward. I also want to serve as a resource to those that could use my own advice.
So with that, I am fully committed to building a network of women professionals this year. Details to come in the next few months.
I have many cousins graduating from college this year and many that will be graduating in the coming years. As I put together their graduation gifts, I can’t help but think about the advice I want to give them. It has been 8 years since I walked that stage and my life has unfolded in a way that I didn’t plan but I wouldn’t have wanted it any different. If I were to give any advice to college grads, it would be these 3 things:
Your degree is not the one thing that will make you successful, you need experience.
You have your degree, now what? You have to go out and conquer the world, the world will not come looking for you. I see more and more students graduating with the mindset that they will land a job instantly – that their degree is the ticket to endless opportunities. Not exactly so. A degree can qualify you for a position but not guarantee you for a position. A degree also validates the fact that you have the discipline to start and finish something – that’s it. I am not underestimating the degree because it is a huge accomplishment! Trust me, I worked 40 hours and took 18 hours of college courses my last semester – I was determined! It just doesn’t guarantee you success in the real world – you’ve got to go out and earn it.
Go out and do things with purpose, not because it is expected of you.
You have lived all your life up to this moment trying to please your teachers, your parents, your coaches, your mentors. I am not saying that you didn’t want to go to school but let’s face it, you want to make those that supported you through the years proud, right? You are accustomed to meeting everyone else’s expectations. Now, you can use what you’ve learned to do things that have personal meaning to you. Things that will change the world in a positive way – whatever that may be. Always ask yourself “why am I doing this?” before taking on a challenge. Yes, we all need to earn money to cover your basic necessities but make sure you find a way to love what you do and find a greater meaning to your job than just a pay check. This will bring you happiness and relieve unnecessary stress.
Save your money now, treat yourself later.
You finally land a job and start seeing that paycheck come in. What? You now can treat yourself to dinner and not eat ramen noodles in your dorm room? That’s right. I know it’s hard to look into the future but your future can mean bigger responsibilities like supporting a family. Right now you have no responsibilities so you can spend all that money on yourself for immediate pleasure. I would advise saving first and then spending what you have left over on things you want. This will make your life that much easier once you decide on moving on to bigger responsibilities. Although I started my 401K early and was able to purchase my first home when I was 25 before I was married, I still wish I would had saved more money than spending it on a bunch of silly things that now mean nothing to me. (For personal finance advice, I always recommend Suze Orman books)
Please note:This is advice based on my own experience. I am just a manager in the business world. My advice isn’t meant to be the best advice, it’s just based on what I have learned. If it can help you, great! If you are a college grad and have other advice, please leave it in the comments.
At Rackspace, I have had the sincere pleasure of working with developers and these people are changing the world as we know it. My responsibility has been to understand what they’re working on and share their work with the world. Humans today communicate with the power of computing – it’s how we live. What many don’t understand is that there are people building behind the scenes not only keeping the lights on but building technologies that are changing humanity. If you hadn’t seen our One Very Proud Dad video, please watch.
When you think about these developers, you wonder how did they learn what they know when only 9 out of 10 schools offer computer programming classes. Well, they taught themselves. They’ve collaborated with others like them on web. With computer programming jobs growing at 2X the national average, we’re doing a disservice to our world’s future by not integrating computer programming curriculum into our children’s education. We need more computer programmers! Check out all the stats on code.org/stats.